Regarding North Carolina

It’s fair to say that I’m writing against my better judgment, because no matter how I say what I’m about to I’m guaranteed to really bother some of you, and since when is generating ill feeling ever advisable? It isn’t, really. But sadly, the generation of ill feeling wasn’t begun by me — it has been more or less a torrent ever since the news of Amendment 1’s passage. Seeing what North Carolina did has made a lot of people angry; and in their anger, they’ve angered me. This isn’t an angry blog, though. I wrote it (and I hope you’ll read it) in a very calm, mild mood. I’d like to keep this purely political — of course it can’t be — but I figure getting the politics out first will hopefully establish a bit of common ground before the religious earthquake that follows.

I am, and have openly been for a couple years now, a libertarian. For me at least, this means that I distrust large government — any major nexus of political clout, really. Moreover, even if I did trust the government to do The Right Thing, I would question its right to do so and its means. I’ve written in the past (and said more frequently) that, for example, I think Social Security and most forms of Welfare need to go away. That’s not because I hate old people or poor people. It’s not even because I don’t think they have a legitimate need for money (and the things for which money is necessary).

It’s because I see the helping of the disenfranchised as a personal responsibility that neither can nor ought to be forced or enacted by bureaucracy. And the money used to run those programs is money that ought to be ours to do with as we choose. I’ve called Ayn Rand brilliant, maintaining that without knowing it she created the perfect Christian theory in objectivism — at the core, it is the belief that those who create wealth are the only ones who have a right to decide what’s done with it. The only difference between Rand and I is that I see the wealth of men as created by God — and thus His commands (to be charitable, for example) cannot be superseded.

I read recently that Jesus did not tell us to feed the hungry and clothe the naked only insomuch as doing so did not interfere with free market economics. And while it’s true that our politics should never hinder our adherence to the faith, it’s also true that Jesus told his followers to do those things. He did not tell us to force other people to do them. He did not tell us to form organizations which steal people’s income and use it for causes we consider optimal. While many nonbelievers no doubt will and do act equally (or, sadly, far more) charitably than believers, the fact remains that that ought to be a free choice.

Perhaps worse than the mere act of compulsory “charity” via tax-funded welfare is the effect it has no doubt had on Americans: by taking more money, the government leaves less in our hands, thus lessening our capacity to be personally charitable. And as anyone who recognizes the name Kitty Genovese will know, we have a natural tendency to see problems and assume someone else will take care of them. When we see a homeless person on the side of the road (and if we’re not so cynical that we assume he’s scamming us), we are conditioned to think that someone else — Uncle Sam, in particular — is going to take care of them eventually. If no welfare program existed, perhaps our response would be like that of the fabled Samaritan: if I don’t help that person now, who will?

That all may be tangential, but I think it’s important. Even when the influence of government results in things which I wholeheartedly think need to be done, I disagree on principal: the government should interfere as little as possible with people’s lives. Barring the rare situations where life is actually endangered, legislation about the life choices of individuals has no place in a society comprised of “free” men and women.

My issue with Amendment 1 goes a bit deeper than libertarian politics, but those are a fair part of it. Thankfully this is a state mandate and not a federal one — and therefore, if one actually likes democracy, a lot closer to the way lawmaking ought to be done — but something tells me even if it were a local government’s decision people would be getting up in arms. Our Constitution allows for increasingly small groups of people to lay out the rules by which their community will live, but apparently there are some rules that are unacceptable regardless of how many people agree on them.

The seemingly obvious parallel (and many are taking it) is the race issue of the last century. There are enough problems with that line of thinking that I’d prefer to avoid it, though I appreciate why people have said what they have. Suffice to say there are still a lot of people who feel that people back then “had it right.” There are still shocking displays of racism in this country, but by and large those who hold to such views have become the exception rather than the rule and no longer have dominance over politics in this country.

Is homosexuality our generation’s version of the sixties? Will people indeed look back with horror and shame on the way people like me felt about LGBTQ? Will they shake their head at the reasons for those feelings? I suppose in the interest of humility it’s worth admitting the possibility, however remote. But if I honestly thought this was the same thing, then I couldn’t very well maintain a position on the issue, could I?

As for Amendment 1, it comes down to this: technically, it was democracy how it ought to be. If enough people living in the state of North Carolina agree that they don’t want something, then far be it from anyone to tell them they have to have it. Tactless or not, the truth is that if people don’t like it, they don’t have to live in North Carolina.

Obviously, not everyone agrees with my views on federal vs. state sovereignty. I may be crazy to suggest that the founding fathers placed a premium on the independence of states, that federal mandates attempting to force states to comply to a set of beliefs they disagree with are inherently wrong. No doubt someone will try to get a federal court to reverse this amendment, and all the Americans calling the citizens of North Carolina “bullies” for forcing their beliefs on North Carolinians will ironically become the same bullies, forcing their beliefs on all Americans.

It seems to me that the only legitimate way to overturn Amendment 1 (or any of the many other laws that various states have passed to prevent homosexual marriage) is via Constitutional amendment which renders the states’ actions unconstitutional. Such an amendment requires (my grade school history’s admittedly a bit fuzzy, but I’m pretty sure it’s something like) 75% of the country to agree, because, you know, if you’re going to force your opinions on people (while claiming that forcing opinions is wrong) then you’d best have an overwhelming majority agreeing to do so.

And there’s the system. We are the United States of America — not just “America.” Which means that the states are individual places in which people live, and not every state needs to agree with every other state. A state has every right to do whatever it pleases to do unless A, doing so breaks existing federal law or B, federal law is changed in such a way as to render that activity unacceptable.

Of course, whether or not Amendment 1 is “technically” okay doesn’t really alter anyone’s opinion on it, which brings me to my real problem with the whole “gay marriage” thing in general: the definition of marriage. Because when you want to come along and say “that’s not marriage, that doesn’t fit within my parameters for marriage” then you’ve really got to know what those parameters are. In my case I realized that the whole sanctity of marriage versus civil unions thing is part of a larger problem, and that’s the fact that government is involved with marriage at all.

I’m not an expert on law or theology. There are nuances here of which I admittedly am ignorant. But my gut reaction is to say that much of what people consider part of getting married is all to do with tradition and not much to do with the actual origins of the institution. Christians love to talk about how the Bible defines marriage as “one man and one woman” but in addition to the fact that that phrase never appears in quotations there’s the matter of a few Old Testament kings whom God adored. Lest your forget, it was God Himself who lavished upon Solomon the riches he came to possess, including a preposterous number of wives — that’s plural — and concubines. What that says about God and scripture’s actual view of women (whether equality between sexes is a Biblical reality or not) is something I’m still not positive of myself. But it’s also irrelevant, so I’ll move on.

One thing I am sure of is that Biblical marriage is a triune covenant: a man, a woman, and God. Without God as witness, a marriage isn’t a marriage, at least not according to scripture. So before we even consider who the two people at the altar are, we must consider the presence (or lack thereof) of the only officiant who actually matters.

The marvel of our society is that you don’t need to believe in God — in any god — to get married. You don’t even have to go to a church. Want to get it done in a courtroom, like a business transaction? Go for it. In Vegas you can hit up a drive-thru. As far as our government is concerned, you just tied the knot. You’re a union. Congratulations.

The sheer existence of such a thing as a drive-thru wedding presents, in my mind, two options. Either such weddings are a sham, and don’t constitute marriage at all, or else they are equal with any other marriage. In the former case, we need to do some legal revisions, because as I said the government considers them real so if we know better, we should make sure they do too. Sadly, I think most lean towards the latter case. And I’m sorry, but if a drunken night in Nevada can produce a real “marriage” then I’m afraid there’s no sanctity left to preserve in the first place.

Feelings on homosexuality aside, proponents of same-sex marriage have it right: heterosexuals have done plenty to erode the “sanctity” themselves. Our divorce rates are preposterously high. Prenups are widespread. Homosexuals may not bring improvements to the institution but they’d be hard-pressed to make it any worse. Moreover, at least for now, civil unions are so difficult to achieve that partners who fight for years to get them aren’t likely to break them off anytime soon; quite likely the legalization of gay marriage would cause the divorce rate to plummet, at least for the near future.

But back to the triune thing. From a Christian standpoint, if any component of that trinity is missing, it’s not a Biblical marriage. That means if there’s not a man, a woman, and God, it’s not a Biblical marriage. This discounts not only homosexual unions, but the unions of any nonbeliever. You can’t have “Holy matrimony” without belief in holiness. You can have lots of other things — beautiful, loving, fulfilling relationships; commitment and perseverance; incredible sacrifice — but a Biblical marriage? No.

In fact, as far as the Bible’s concerned, marriage has almost nothing to do with love. Most relationships were, in fact, just business transactions. Women were chattel, sold to the highest bidder. And while I’m not suggesting that we regress to the customs of ancient people, I am suggesting that using caution when pointing to the Bible for how marriage ought to be is prudent. Because as I said earlier, much of what we call marriage today is really built on relatively new cultural standards and tradition that doesn’t even go back a thousand years, let alone two or four.

So love’s not the standard of whether two people are married. The only standard is the gravity of the covenant, and its sovereignty in the eyes of God. And one can neither leave God out and still have a marriage nor ignore God’s standards and expect Him to approve.

All of this really comes down to the fact that we call an incredible number of civil partnerships marriages that, at least from a Biblical standard, aren’t. Yes, there are crossovers — a marriage officiated in a courtroom can easily, and without ceremony, be a real marriage so long as God is part of the relationship — but the point is that many, many people in this country are considered married despite not meeting Biblical criteria, and never before have we gotten up in arms about nomenclature.

Because this is “a free country.” And while I personally adhere to the Bible, and I view reality according to what it says, I recognize that the laws of this land are not to be dictated by my personal convictions. And so, while I read scripture and am told that God considers homosexuality an abomination — and thus cannot accept it as a good or God-pleasing lifestyle, certainly not one that ought to be officiated and celebrated — I would no more fight to prevent gay “marriages” than fight to disband atheist “marriages” or Buddhist “marriages” or Muslim “marriages.”

The only thing I do think may be worth fighting for is the language itself, because I’ve used quotation marks far too many times in this passage around things that weren’t quotes. The truth is, no matter what the law happens to say today or fifty years from now, the word “marriage” is already useless. We fight and even people who agree on what it doesn’t mean don’t have any sense of agreement on what it does. They put up flimsy claims that their position is staked on some greater authority but they can’t prove it. Because they’ve gotten things confused. The Bible may say homosexuality is wrong, but it has no bearing on legal bonds and tax breaks and bank accounts and all the other things that American “marriages” affect. And if our government seeks to recognize people for sticking together as unique from individuals who happen to like each other temporarily, then I don’t see why it matters who those people are. It will never be a marriage the way the Bible defines it, but then precious few marriages in this country are.

And I suppose that I haven’t much more to say. A great many of you will disagree with me because you don’t agree with the Bible. And that’s fine. Like I said, it’s a free country. But at least I have an external basis for my position, and I’m not just “going with my gut.” If you have some other basis for absolute truth, then I’m glad for you. If not, well…if you don’t believe in a definite truth, then you can’t really have an interest in disproving me anyway, right?

As for those who do believe in the Bible, and moreover believe it to be infallible (for otherwise, what’s the point?), but believe that there is indeed room for scriptural acceptance of homosexuality: I’ve put a lot of time into trying to find such room in a way that isn’t merely convenient and hypocritical. I’ve read a great many people’s thoughts on it and have always found flaws. As such, while I am willing to read and consider opposing views, I find it highly unlikely that I will change my mind on the matter.

So that covers the religious aspect. As for the politics — because oftentimes those are the bigger shock — suffice to say that so long as I agree with the Declaration of Independence I will be a libertarian, and I will consider those who aren’t to be lacking in some fundamental understanding of the implications of being free and equal people. Such are, as the term is en vogue, bullies, even the most well-meaning of the bunch.

I’ve written quite a bit more than I intended and, admittedly, didn’t do the best job sticking to North Carolina. I’m leaving comments open unless they begin to drip with vitriol. But if you have pressing thoughts on anything I’ve raised here, my guess is they’re too nuanced to adequately address in a comment, and may warrant further discussion (particularly if you aren’t merely disagreeing with me but actually disproving). In such a case I welcome emails. If I get enough of a response to warrant a follow-up post, it’ll happen. But for now, I’ll shut up.

Take a deep breath.

Now if you have something to say, do.

4 thoughts on “Regarding North Carolina

  1. Adam, I am also a libertarian. I have read and believe in both the Declaration of Independence and the Bible. I have faith in both, as it were.

    We as a country have changed the definition of the word “marriage.” You elude to this here but need to follow that through. The term “marriage” is nothing more than a contract entered into with the country on a federal level. First and foremost, it effects our taxes. No state shall be permitted to pass a law or amendment that effects the federal government’s right to tax a citizen. At the end of the day, these same-sex amendments (pro and con) do just that.

    As for Christianity, I find nowhere in the Bible the encouragement to punish …. unless I am God. I am not. Nor are you. Nor are the citizens of North Carolina. I do not care if you (or they) find homosexuality a sin. Preach against it until your face turns blue. I do take issue if you decide to unilaterally punish those who you feel are sinning. I find no support for it in the Bible or the Declaration.

    The government has no business interfering in a citizen’s life unless he inhibits the life, liberty and pursuit of happiness of another citizen. Are you really saying that allowing a tax break and entitlement to a deceased spouse’s estate is threatening those 3 things for Americans?

    As for being bullies …. how else do explain a group of individuals banding together to punish people who are in way harming anyone? Unless you believe that “allowing” homosexuality will harm the world. For those who do, I wonder what they think “allowing” groups to unilaterally punish others with no regard to the very foundations upon which we built this country (and Jesus built Christianity) will do to either.

    I encourage argument (obviously), and I agree with so much of what you have said. I just do not understand how you can support little involvement and then encourage these amendments which are not only ultimate involvement but also go against everything the Constitution was …. and still is.

  2. Hey Andrea, thanks for the quick response.
    I’ll admit I’m confused as to your use of “punishment,” but it probably comes down to the vagueness of the word marriage and therefore interpretation of marriage as a right (which is thus taken away by Amendment 1). To that end, I agree — the Bible does not give us grounds for punishing sin (vengeance is the Lord’s), and no law should be enacted as a means of doing God’s job.

    What actually confuses me is how you think I approve of Amendment 1. I do not. I approve of the legal processes which caused it to happen, and I would approve of a federal amendment to settle the issue one way or the other. I don’t approve of people dismissing state politics because they disagree with them, and I don’t approve of people trying to wield federal clout in a way inconsistent with the Constitutional guidelines for doing so. The proper way to overturn Amendment 1 would be to federally guarantee a right to marriage — a right which, as I just alluded to, I don’t actually think of as “a right.”

    My libertarian sentiments suggest that there should be no tax breaks/entitlements/etc. tied to marriage whatsoever, because relationships (however official) should not have any ties to government or politics. If those entitlements will continue to exist for heterosexuals, I see no reason for them to not be available to homosexuals. I disagree with calling either “marriage” but I’ve given up on the semantics side of the debate.

    I come back to my prior point though: aside from saying there’s nothing inherently wrong with the way in which Amendment 1 was passed, I don’t understand how you got the idea that I actually supported the amendment.

  3. Ok … glad to hear you are not a fan.

    But I take issue with this being an example of how the Constitution is working. I do not approve with how States such as North Carolina amend their constitutions. Popular vote? Really? I cannot think of anything that flies in the face more of the intended Democracy our founding fathers envisioned for our country.

    But good, okay. Popular vote. Bam. Amendment. But it still does not make it legal for a state to make a law that directly involves, prevents, etc a federal law. Look at it from the other side … a state that allows same-sex marriage. Those individuals still cannot file as married on their federal tax returns. How is this a law, then?

    And my biggest problem with the federal government is that we do not amend the Constitution properly. We allow our Supreme Court to “read into” what they think the Constitution is saying. Call me crazy, but I rather think Article V was in there for a reason.

    All that rant being said (in much fewer words than I had originally typed), I still will never agree with the idea of the government getting so involved in these issues. It has no place. None. And if you want to argue that levying taxes gives it one, then I can lobby for less of a federal tax break for African Americans or Jews or people who really like the color orange. Cause why not?

    1. I’d disagree that popular vote is undemocratic. It’s democracy at its purest. The real difference is that we live in a democratic republic, which isn’t always as democratic as one might think. So North Carolina’s procedure…un-American, maybe, but not undemocratic. As for the way the federal government has a tendency (more frequent than ever these days) to completely ignore the Constitution (both its intent and its actual institutions), I certainly agree. The Supreme Court hasn’t been doing its job for quite some time, and the legislative and executive branches have been doing even worse. Sadly that seems to be the inevitable result of a country which sees the government not as a means of enacting majority desire but as a tool to be wielded against dissent. So long as Congress remains a tug-o-war I don’t think the Constitution is going to be a real part of the debate. If Constitution (and following it) were important to the American people, Ron Paul would already have won the election.

      As for most of the rest of what you said, I’ll defer to my prior statement: I disagree with the concept of federal meddling with relationship (status) in general. I don’t think there should be tax breaks or entitlements on the basis of union in general. But if they’re going to exist for people, they ought to be available to all people. And while I appreciate the sentiment that those tax incentives were put in place because of family generation, growth, and stability, the fact remains that a barren (or sexually disinterested) heterosexual couple is still entitled to the cuts under the current system, at which point they’re no more contributing to family or population than a homosexual couple would be.

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