This afternoon I scrawled my name on a piece of paper. I’ve done it quite a few times before, and most of those times have been fairly trivial, but today, today it meant a bit more.
Today, my signature confirmed my acceptance into The Ohio State University. Today, for the first time in nearly two years, I became a full-time student once again.
But I get ahead of myself.
It began in August. I don’t really know when, for sure, but I know it was August. It started an hour or so outside of Boston, somewhere between Northboro, where I was working as an independent contractor for a small web startup, and Upton, where I was living with the good friend who had gotten me that job. I can’t say for sure where I was when the seeds of doubt were planted. Perhaps I was lying in the spare bedroom, staring at the ceiling fan. Perhaps I was sitting at the corner desk of an office working on a user manual. Perhaps I was driving those still-unfamiliar rural roads between the two.
I don’t know when I first suspected I was in the wrong place. But once the thought was noticed, it refused to die. I began to panic. I did a lot of boring soul-searching. I complained about my own inability to decide. I had a lot of conversations with well-meaning friends whose sum total of advice was nothing, because I had earnest and perfectly legitimate reasons for staying and for going. It all cancelled out, and I was left listening to the dim, distrustful heart and a hope that the voice I was hearing wasn’t Satan trying to ruin my life.
So I left Massachusetts, and I declared that I was going to go back to school. I was going to take the GRE, I was going to research graduate programs, and I was going to go and have a real future for once. I was on the road to becoming a professor, I said, and even as my progress down that road proved fairly sloppy at times I was convinced it was the right road to be taking.
There were quite a few folks who weren’t so optimistic. I had good friends actually tell me my ship had sailed, that the time for me to consider going further with school was past. Those who believed grad school made sense still felt inclined to heavily salt their encouragement: You probably won’t find people who care about video games. You probably won’t find funding. You probably won’t be accepted. Your resume is too empty. Your last year will cripple your future.
And in spite of my convictions, I’ll admit I began to wonder if I was a fool for doing what I’d done. I looked back, as each month passed and the distance between me and a secure, salaried future grew wider, and couldn’t help but wonder how I’d ever live down the decision to leave Boston. I’d known it was risky, but I’d convinced myself the risk was worth it. Now, with only a handful of applications out and a great deal of practical unemployment to drown in, I couldn’t help but wonder if I’d been wrong.
And then, last Friday, my phone flashed with the number of an unknown caller. I didn’t know it as I accepted that call, but the following conversation would change my life.
I didn’t catch his name — though I’d ask for it later. He was from The Ohio State University, and was I Adam Bogert, and did I have the time to talk? I laughed at the thought of not having time — I’ve had too much as of late, of course — and he began. He told me he was on the committee tasked with choosing the next wave of entrants into OSU’s program. They’d looked over my application, and they were “very impressed.”
I don’t really know how to articulate the emotions that began to stir at that point. Ohio State was on the receiving end of the very first application I’d ever written. My first statement of purpose. My first attempt at a CV. It had been a rushed shot in the dark from the shaky hand of a guy who was terrified he wouldn’t make a December 1st deadline for a school which seemed to actually care about things he wanted to devote his life to studying. It bore out that for the majority of the time which had followed my May 2011 graduation, I’d been out of work with little but a few blogs and essays and an unsteady contractor job to show for myself. And yet, these people were impressed. Very impressed.
He asked me some questions about myself, my aspirations, my thoughts on research and on graduate study in general. He asked me if I planned to get a PhD somewhere down the line. I told him absolutely, that I wanted to be a professor and a doctorate would inevitably be a prerequisite for doing so. I just wasn’t sure I knew myself well enough to jump straight into it, hence my application to the Master’s program.
Then came the advice, the “suggestion,” the sort that is so overwhelmingly in one’s favor that you realize your own agency in following it really comes down to whether or not you’re a masochist. The kind that says “you should consider doing this” but means “do this.” His advice: change your application from Master’s to PhD. There’s more money there. More opportunity.
I hadn’t been accepted into the program, but they wanted the opportunity to recommend me for funding, perhaps even a fellowship, and they could only do that for doctorate students, so I should be one of those. I told him okay. He told me he couldn’t wait to meet me, that he and a few others were doing some research I’d probably find interesting. Something about the benefits of violent video games.
Four days later, I received an email from the school. I’d been accepted into the PhD program. I’d have an associateship with the school, which would pay me a living stipend and completely waive my tuition fees. I’d received an offer to be paid to get my degrees, from a school which had recently bought a video game research lab, coupled with a chance to teach college classes.
In short: I’d experienced a miracle.
And my spirits soared. I was going to be a professor. I was going to study video games. I was going to avoid grad school debt.
But most importantly, I was free from doubt, free from the fear that I’d ruined my life four and a half months ago. No more worrying that no one would care to have me. No more worrying that my dreams were pipedreams. No more feeling that I’d truly and irrevocably let my parents, myself down.
I’ve reread that acceptance letter half a dozen times, just to make sure it was real, to make sure it wasn’t the byproduct of a desperate and delusional mind. It’s real. And so is my signature on that piece of paper.
This August I begin a new chapter in my life, the one in which I’m pursuing a PhD and will pick up my Master’s credentials along the way, the one in which my passion for games is taken seriously, the one in which my ability to write and explain things is put to worthwhile use for once. The one in which, for the first time, I can answer inquests like “what do you do” and “where are you going” with joy rather than nihilism, with hope rather than fear, with pride rather than shame.
And so, for those of you who have been there along this troubled road, or the ones who have just joined me, I just wanted to take a moment to thank you. A teacher with no classroom, an orator with no audience, a writer with no readers, is nothing. I’m proud to have you here, listening, and hearing, and (hopefully) learning. Here’s to OSU. To 2013.
Here’s to the next chapter.
3 thoughts on “Chapter: Next”
Once again — congratulations! Very excited to see how the Lord will work in your life in the coming years…I’ve got to hand it to you — you had a vision, took the plunge, and made it happen. Just keep that in mind the next time something daunting is on the horizon!
This is so exciting! What amazes me about life is how unexpected the twists and turns can be. Often when something incredible happens, I look back and think, “I would NEVER have anticipated getting this lucky — or seeing my hard work pay off like this — a few years ago.” That’s part of the magic, I guess… and it keeps hope alive for the future. Anyway, congratulations!
I still recall how, as a two year old, you would call out the makes and models of almost every car that passed us on the highway. Not just red car or blue truck… You knew the difference between a Toyota Corolla and Camry, a Chevy Camaro and Impala. I don’t know how you knew these things at such an early age but it was impressive, nonetheless. While I may not have been there, physically, every step of the way as you grew up, I was aware of your accomplishments along the way. I have followed your early blogs where you provided an amusing perspective of the customers you encountered while working at A&P right up to this latest blog, “Next”. You never cease to impress me with your ever growing vocabulary and sophisticated writing style. I admit that sometimes you are a little too “deep” for me to follow along, but I appreciate your love of writing and the passion behind it.
Anyway, I digress… Words can not express how proud I am of you for staying true to yourself and pursuing your dream. All to often, society forces us to make decisions that aren’t always right or even best for our interests. Too many of us are so focused on the paycheck that we find ourselves too far down the wrong path to find our way back. Fortunately, you realized early on that you wanted more and returned home before getting lost. You made the effort that others might not have and it is now paying off. You are well on your way to a great future and, for once in your life, YOU KNOW IT! You hold the key to your future, nobody else. Keep that key safely tucked away and don’t let anyone tell you “you can’t”. I’m proud to be your uncle and I look forward to your continued success. I leave you with the following quote…
“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream;
not only plan, but also believe”.